Lessons from Rwanda: Trauma, Healing and Leadership
In his podcast about ‘Understanding Your Trauma & How to Heal Emotional Wounds to Start Moving On From Past Today,’ Jay Shetty, a super popular podcaster shares his experiences with genocide survivors and other Rwandans and describes his discovery that the country’s healing has a lot to do with its current leadership. Jay was in Rwanda last June with Ellen DeGeneres for the opening of her Gorillas conservation campus in Musanze. His comments below come from his conversation with Dr. Gabor Maté on trauma and healing; the transcript begins at 1:01:30
Jay Shetty: I recently went to Rwanda with Ellen DeGeneres in collaboration with a Gorilla sanctuary and conservation centre. We went there to trek with the gorillas, learn about them and Rwanda. I had never been to Rwanda before; I don’t know if I would have visited if it wasn’t for her. The biggest thing that I took away, obviously trekking with gorillas and being in nature with a form of life that has no interest in us, but we were fascinated by them, was an incredible experience and I’ll talk about that separately, but the reason I brought it up here is I also had time to go to the genocide memorial museum. It was fascinating for me to learn, it’s been around twenty (twenty-eight) years from what I remember, that a tenth of the population of the country, so approximately a million people, of ten million, died and were killed in the genocide.
And most of the people who live there today, it was their parents, their ancestors, that did this, just twenty (twenty-eight) years ago, it was not a long time at all. And I met some of the survivors, I sat with them in the museum, I talked to them, we talked to the locals, to the people who were helping us with our travel and arrangements in the hotels we stayed at, and it fascinated me that the people were so healed, there was such a genuine, sincere conversation that they have let go of this two-tribe culture, they’ve let go of the names, the identification, they are living by a principle they call ubuntu, ‘I am what I am because of who we all are.’ It was so special.
Dr. Gabor Maté: I’m curious to ask, did you delve into what allowed them to do that?
Jay: They said a lot of it came through the leadership, they said that that was how they were being led. It’s like what you were saying that we don’t have time to focus on these huge issues because we’re too busy wondering which player played in which position. They didn’t say it in that way, but that’s what they were saying, that their leadership encouraged us to think in this way and I couldn’t believe that in twenty (twenty-eight) years, when your parents have probably killed their parents, that you are standing next to each other not worrying about the lineage that this culture had. It was the Europeans who set up part of that anyway, but I just wanted to understand from you, what does it take to get to that level of healing because, you know people would say that it’s a 10 million population, to me that’s still a humongous win for the world. I was wondering if you’ve seen cultures, or even smaller groups, during war where you have seen that kind of healing before?
Dr. Gabor Maté: I don’t know about what happened in Rwanda; I’m really encouraged to hear what you describe here. I think at the very least of it, the suffering had to be fully acknowledged and heard. Then healing can take place. That has to happen which is why it’s so important to understand trauma, the suffering has to be acknowledged. In Rwanda, of course that tribal hatred didn’t just arise from nowhere, nor is it necessarily in the nature of those people to be like that. Part of it was the legacy of Colonialism, that quite deliberately set one group against another, which created struggle and hatred and violence.
You can listen the part where Jay Shetty and Dr. Gabor Maté discuss about Rwanda on the audio below:
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Visiting Rwanda. Football for Peace: Ishami Foundation in action.
Visiting Rwanda. Football for Peace: Ishami Foundation in action.
Written by Anna Birakos, (Ishami Foundation Project Outreach Volunteer Officer).
I’ve been volunteering for Ishami Foundation for over a year, whilst completing an MA in History, specialising in the 1994 genocide against the Tutsi. In June 2022, I visited Kigali to learn more about the work Ishami Foundation do on the ground in Rwanda. Ishami Foundation uses sport and storytelling to educate communities and individuals about the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi in the UK. We also have several community impact coaches based in Rwanda who work with children and community members to facilitate football sessions based on our core values which accentuate the importance of collaboration, respect, communication, and unity.
During my trip, I met with the CEO and founder of Ishami Foundation, Eric Murangwa Eugene. Although Eric lives in London, we coincided our visits to Rwanda to ensure I was able to help with a pre-planned sporting programme initiative for volunteers of KidsPlay at Good Heritage Academy. The event was led by our coaches, Evariste Habimana and Oscarie Iragena and involved thirty international volunteers, as part of our sport for social development initiative. Our coaches led team building exercises, football drills and games which focused on building communication, teamwork, peace and connectivity through sport. Although the session was organised for international volunteers of a different NGO (KidsPlay), it followed the typical structure of the weekly football sessions which are arranged for our Rwandan Ishami team players. It was a fantastic opportunity to learn more about our projects and was incredibly well received by our participants!
Whilst in Kigali, I also met with Olivier Brave Ngabo, the Programs Director of Ibuka Rwanda. Ibuka is the largest Rwandan memory and survivor organisation, it maintains strong links with Ishami Foundation, along with the wider diasporic survivor communities around the world. Ibuka means ‘remember’ in Kinyarwanda. Olivier kindly explained how the organisation works in Rwanda and internationally. Its outreach and success since 1994 are incredibly impressive; he also detailed the barriers facing the future progression of its work and its connection to Ishami. Olivier later showed me around Nyanza genocide memorial where over 105,000 victims are buried. The newly established memorial garden, created by the First lady of Rwanda, uses nature to symbolically memorialise and explain the facts of the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi. For example, in the dry garden, one million stones symbolise the over one million victims of the genocide. There are caves, a small stream (symbolic of a river), and long grasses which emulate the conditions where people were murdered or where survivors hid during the 100 days. Seeing the memorial was an incredibly moving experience which had a profound effect on me. It was a privilege to meet Olivier and a powerful reminder of the importance of supporting diasporic Rwandan survivor organisations around the world.
During my trip, I was also incredibly privileged (and lucky enough!) to visit the Angolan Black and White Colobus Monkeys of the Nyungwe Forest, join the traditional Rwandan fishermen on a night fishing exhibition for Sambaza on Lake Kivu and experience the wealth of arts and culture that Kigali has to offer at Inema Art Centre. In my weeks there, I fell in love with Rwanda; the welcoming and kind people that I met, and the beauty of the country is like nothing I’ve ever experienced before.
Working with the Foundation in Rwanda not only gave me the opportunity to learn, first-hand, about the impact that Ishami Foundation has in Rwanda and the significance of using football as a tool to promote social cohesion and unity, but it also solidified the fundamental importance of remembering, uniting and working together, across continents, to ensure ‘Never Again’ becomes a reality, rather than a slogan. I am incredibly grateful to have met and worked with our remarkable coaches and partners, and I feel extremely lucky to have had the privilege of visiting the beautiful land of a thousand hills.
If you are interested in learning more about the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi and supporting our reconciliation and awareness projects, both in Rwanda and in the UK, please get in touch.
GloKnoCo Trip to Paderborn Germany. March 2022
GloKnoCo Trip to Paderborn Germany. March 2022
Written by Anna Birakos, (Ishami Foundation Project Outreach Volunteer, MA History Student, Durham University.)
In March, I attended the Global Sport for Development and Peace Knowledge Collaborative (GloKnoCo) conference in Paderborn (Germany). Following our prior trip to Berlin (2021), and Olomouc (2019), the visit was a marked success. GloKnoCo was established three years ago under the Erasmus and EU programme. The visit consisted of a 5-day field trip which sought to explore the way in which sport can be used for social development and peace. The central aim of the programme is to begin a dialogue between universities and NGOs to ensure current and future teaching and actors engage with contemporary research which effectively addresses the fundamental needs of the sector.
On day two, we began with practical workshops led by our partner NGOs; Przemek and Jakub at trenujbyciedobrym (Poland), Nicola from PlayHandball (South Africa and Kenya) and Ansley and Lenka from INEX (fotbalprorozvoj, Czech Republic). During the session led by Przemek and Jakub, we played Football Free, a football game centred around teamwork, respect and game values. This encouraged us to consider the active values that football can teach. Rather than focusing on winning,
students used the workshop to develop their own rules of play, which centred around encouragement, teamwork and civility. The ethos behind this resonated with the work we do on the ground at Ishami Foundation, thus enabling us to reflect on the different ways football can be used to both promote reconciliation and unity. During the session led by Nicola (PlayHandball) we engaged in handball games based on the topic of littering and environmental consciousness. This taught us to reflect on the importance of recycling, communication and respect (for the team, the game and the planet). During Ansley and Lenka’s session (INEXs), we learned about the importance of soft skills, communication, and teamwork, both on and off the pitch. Again, this foregrounded the impact that football has in teaching young people about the values and team spirit attributed to sport. In the afternoon, Dr. Marie Buernann introduced a theory behind Sport for Development and students discussed the United Nations’ Sustainable Development Goals agenda.
After reuniting with GloKnoCo scholars and NGO representatives, the programme began with an introductory games’ night, where new students from the University of Olomouc (Czech Republic), the University of Brighton (UK) and the University of Paderborn (Germany) met and engaged in intercultural team building activities. During games night, we learned about the importance of diversity and inclusion through the ‘CultuRallye game’, a game built on the premise of intercultural communication. Afterwards, we reflected on the central ideology behind the game, in relation to the way we interact with new people, understand different cultures and orient ourselves in new and sometimes difficult situations. This was a thought- provoking way to begin the week as it foregrounded considerations of diversity and inclusion, shedding light on matters such as communication, social norms, different cultures and the way this makes you feel.
On day three, students formed groups and worked towards their own sporting programmes organised under one of the SDGs. In the afternoon, Professor Sabine Radtke from the University of Paderborn presented on the topic of sports for people with disabilities. We considered the concept of disability in relation to sport by discussing medical and social models of disability, particularly in relation to how disability remains taboo in certain societies and what the consequences of this is in different environments. The evening ended with a viewing of the documentary Gold – You Can Do More Than You Think. The documentary followed three inspirational Paralympic athletes and their journey to the London 2012 Paralympics; it emphasised the message that physical limitations can be overcome and encouraged us to expand our horizons.
Following this enlightening evening, on day four, we engaged in a variety of para- sports led by Paralympic athletes. Workshops included Goalball (led by Michael Breidbach, ex German National Team player); Wheelchair Basketball led by Philipp Wilmes and Katherina Hatting (Paderborn Ahorn Panthers). Along with Sitting Volleyball, led by Suvi Blechschmidt (TSV Bayer 04 Leverkusen) and Paralympic player Mathis Tigler (TSV Bayer 04 Leverksuen). These workshops sought to create awareness and understanding around undertaking sport with impairments – it was incredibly inspiring. We then reflected on the day’s activities and engaged in a group
discussion about the purpose of the activities. This was particularly prominent as it re-iterated the differing ways sport can encourage reflection on division and polarisation in society, be that through disability, religion or ethnicity. Again, the relevance of these topics linked to the work Ishami Foundation engage in on the ground in Rwanda, accentuating the fundamental importance of football, (and sport in general), in breaking down barriers and divisions and unifying participants.
On the final day, Dr. Graham Spacey presented the Theory of Change initiative, as part of the final preparation for students ahead of the Brussels Field Trip. Students will now work in intercultural groups to create a ‘Theory of Change Prospective’ for Ishami Foundation which will be presented at the Brussels conference in May. This will correlate the key issues we discussed throughout the duration of the Paderborn trip and help anticipate the development of Ishami. The model should trace our future activities and achievable outcomes in consideration of our long-term goals, target communities and aims for change.
We look forward to working with the students on this project and seeing the finalised project in Brussels. This will be presented to international academics and SDP stakeholders in the field.
GloKnoCo Trip to Berlin
GloKnoCo Trip to Berlin
Written by Anna Birakos (MA History, Durham University, Ishami Foundation Project Outreach Volunteer), and Erin Brady (MA Islamic Studies, SOAS University, Ishami Foundation Volunteer).
Alongside Eric Murangwa Eugene (CEO and Founder of Ishami Foundation), we attended the Global Sport for Development and Peace Knowledge Collaborative (GloKnoCo) conference in Berlin in early November. GloKnoCo was established three years ago under the Erasmus and EU programme. The trip consisted of a 5-day field trip which sought to explore the way in which sport can be used for social development and peace. It involved three universities: the University of Brighton (UK), the University of Paderborn (Germany) and the University of Olomouc (Czech Republic), along with three NGO representatives. The duration of the trip was spent visiting different organisations around Berlin, with the aim of understanding how these groups used football as a tool to empower communities.
The GloKnoCo trip was an exciting, eye-opening, and educational experience, which gave both of us the opportunity to learn, reflect and comprehend how sport can be used as an essential tool to create strong relationships, develop communities and create peace and unity. On our first day in Berlin, we visited Anna Worrmann (Engagement Global), and Moritz Voges (Lernort Stadion), at Hertha BSC sports complex and learned about the practical activities and methodologies for children. The trip was a fun, educational experience where we learnt how problem-solving activities with children can teach them innate values and morals.
Our highlights also involved visiting KickFair, a Street Football Youth NGO based in Berlin. This organisation visits schools around the city to help underprivileged children learn about the importance of developing confidence and skills through football, by teaching them the values of respect, communication, and teamwork. This aligns closely with Ishami Foundation’s objectives, which seek to merge testimonies of survivors of the 1994 Genocide Against the Tutsi with the active side of football. The session allowed us to reflect on how we can interact with young people in an engaging manner whilst simultaneously encouraging thoughtfulness and thinking skills. We hope to use these considerations to better combine football and storytelling in our Lessons From Rwanda programme, by working with underprivileged children in schools around the UK in the future.
Equally, visiting Hangar 1 was an enriching experience. Temelhof airport ground has been converted into a space were refugees and the people of Berlin can come together to participate in sport, culture, education and counselling – for free. Hangar 1’s vision is to provide a space where everyone feels included, an idea carefully curated right down to the activities they offer to the drinks they provide in the café. By founding the space on the principles of inclusion, cohesion and wellbeing, the importance of cooperation and integration through sport resonate with our mutual ethos at Ishami. During our visit, we were included in the Hangar 1’s community by participating in various sporting activities; volleyball, roller-skating and, of course, football! After our session, we sat down with Ian, a representative from PLAY!YA (an NGO concerned with sports as a social phenomenon), and discussed what we’d learnt about the way sport impacts communities. This extended to a conversation on how other methods, such as art and theatre, can be used to help and reconciliate both international and local communities.
Similarly, visiting Street Football World was an incredible opportunity to learn about the roles of professional footballers and their working relationships with different stakeholders. We met Thomas and Attah Jeph Okekwu and learned about their new, ground-breaking initiative ‘Common Goal.’ ‘Common Goal’ is designed to connect grassroots sports programmes around the world with international professional footballers. Key players donate 1% of their wages to the project, which enables more NGOs and sports organisations to bring the power of sport to underprivileged communities. Learning about the programme taught us about the influence of football, hope and collaboration.
Eric Murangwa Eugene, our CEO and Founder, also sat down with the students to give a powerful presentation about his life and the story of Rwanda. It was an incredible privilege to listen to Eric’s testimony, and it gave GloKnoCo participants the unique opportunity to reflect on some of the central issues that we face in the world today, in terms of division, polarisation and perpetual ‘othering’ in society. It also pushed us to consider the humanity and power of football and its effect on people’s lives.
Although the trip aimed to enlighten us about the different ways sport can be used as a tool for social change, we also enjoyed meeting other like-minded students, academics, and NGO representatives from around the world. After 18 months of covid-induced isolation, the opportunity to meet new people with a common interest was particularly wonderful! We enjoyed talking to different students, whose backgrounds ranged from Russian to Saudi Arabian to Indian, about their own areas of study and their cultural heritage; we were exceptionally lucky that the trip fell over Diwali so two students who celebrate the festival shared their traditions and practices with us. The group united through a common interest in sport, (in particular football), and we built friendships, discussed our ideas, and actively engaged with each other and the local community through our mutual desire to make a difference. This mirrors the values of Ishami Foundation, and we look forward to using the skills that we gained from the trip on the ground.
The trip took place between the 1st-5th of November 2021. There are plans for future trips to both Brussels and Paderborn in 2022.
Q&A: In conversation with Alice Musabende
Q&A: In conversation with Alice Musabende
By Anna Birakos
Alice Musabende is a Gates Scholar completing a PhD in International Relations at the University of Cambridge. She is a mother of two and a survivor of the 1994 genocide against the Tutsis in Rwanda, in which her family were killed along with over a million other Tutsis. Her radio series ‘Unspeakable’ explores the questions of second generational trauma and the importance of stories and legacy. Alice searches for a way to translate her experiences and the violence inflicted on her people to her two children, aged eight and five. The programme will air on BBC Radio 4 from the 2nd – 6th of August, 2021.
Earlier this week, Alice spoke to Anna Birakos, Ishami Foundation Project Outreach Volunteer. Their conversation was edited for clarity and length.
What is the project about and what was the central motivation behind it?
It is a radio documentary series that documents my search for a good way to tell my children, aged eight and five, about my family’s death and also about the genocide against the Tutsis of 1994. It was motivated by a search for the right words, the right moment and the right contextualisation, to talk to my kids but also other young people, who aren’t growing up in Rwanda, who are somewhat western raised – I wanted to find a way to make it make sense for them. There was also a second motivation, to start generating a conversation about how we talk to the next generation about the genocide against the Tutsi, its broader implications over time and what it means for them. It starts as a personal quest, to figure out how to make it make sense for them … that is at the heart of my programme.
Is there anything that you hope listeners will take from your story?
Yes. First, I believe it’s time we start to think about the long-term implications of the genocide against the Tutsis, for the children of survivors, and for future generations – it’s absolutely crucial to start having this conversation.
The second thing is that I hope people see it as a way to continue building empathy, for those who survived and who still struggle with the consequences, whether these are about mental health challenges or challenges of another nature and for second-generation survivors who are already dealing with the consequences of a tragedy that happened long before they were born. For the parents, one of those challenges is about finding the right words to say the unspeakable and to relay that to our children, because it involves re-living the trauma. It is my hope that we can continue to see that survivors are real people, with real feelings and real challenges every day. They walk around with all kinds of trauma and, in my case anyway, worry about what that trauma means for our children and their children after we are gone. I don’t think I am unique in that regard.
The third point is about education. Sadly, I don’t think that the world really understands the nature and implications of the tragic history of the genocide of the Tutsis. I think for many people outside of Rwanda, ‘it’s that thing that happened far away in Africa, it’s not a big deal if it’s not happening here. Isn’t it dangerous then, that our children would grow up thinking that way? Education about the genocide of the Tutsis and holding onto its memory is a crucial element of the ‘never again’: not just in Rwanda or in Africa but elsewhere. It is therefore fitting that we talk about it to children.
Could you describe your journey as a survivor and your experiences in 1994?
I was born and raised in the capital of Rwanda, Kigali, and I was 13 and in my second year of high school when the genocide began. But the story of my family’s persecution doesn’t start in 1994; we’d had to move places a number of times and a number of our family members had been living in exile for many years before. In 1994, I had a sister, (seven years old) and a baby brother (three years old), we lived in my Grandpa’s house. On Wednesday April 6th, I was not home as I’d gone to visit my aunt. There were about twelve people in my home and not a single one of them walked out alive. With my aunt, we didn’t ‘escape’ really, but we sought refuge, first in a Red Cross Centre, but it quickly became very dangerous and we spent weeks seeking shelter in different parts of Kigali.
By the end of the genocide, my parents, my grand parents and all of my siblings had died. Along with my other aunt’s two young children, age 8 and 5. I survived, along with my aunt who raised me and her two kids. After the genocide, I had a lot of post traumatic issues for a long time but sadly it wasn’t something that my family, or I, understood at the time so I struggled a lot to make sense of it. Slowly, with the help of mental health professionals and with people who took me under their wing, I slowly recovered, went back to school, and later went to university. I have spent the last two decades trying to heal, but I didn’t really think that there would be a time when my children would ask me about my experiences. Many years ago a therapist had given me the idea of journaling, but you can’t write a journal and hand it to your children when they can’t read and write. They ask questions – they ask what happened to Grandma and Grandpa, or why they are never mentioned. It was only when I had children that I started having moments of pure anxiety where I would think… How am I going to do this? I mean, if I still need to see a therapist to talk about the things I remember and that still hurt, what on earth am I going to tell the kids when they ask?
This radio programme, is in a sense, my way to say to other parents – if you’re like me and you panic at the idea of having to explain something that you haven’t quite made sense of, you’re not alone. I use this one personal story, a very raw experience putting my life and my children’s lives out there; but I want to be clear, my story isn’t an exceptional one, in fact it’s a very ordinary survivor of the genocide story. I use it not because it is exceptional or more painful than other survivors’ experiences. I only use what I know to help start a conversation on what it means to raise children in the wake of a genocide.
Do you think sharing your story on a platform like BBC Radio 4 will change the way in which the public recognise the issues faced by survivors of the genocide against the Tutsi?
I don’t know but I hope so. You see, since 1994, most of the stories we hear or read in the media about the experiences of survivors are written by other people or, more often than not, told from a western perspective. Only recently, do we see survivors recounting their stories, talking about their survival and what’s happened to them since. Most of the stories, particularly in the media, tend to keep survivors’ life experiences in 1994 and rarely reflect their lives today, and the complexities of living in two different worlds simultaneously; as both memory keepers and as everyday citizens, who are trying to self-actualise and realise their dreams and ambitions. Now, I’m not saying that this programme is doing that exactly, but it’s an attempt to show that life has changed, and that now some of us have children and they are asking questions. I want to reflect that continuity of time.
The BBC Radio 4 is a huge platform and I feel incredibly privileged to have been commissioned. But now that I have finished the programme, I reflect on what I would have loved to do differently. I would have loved to have interviewed more survivors and to have had more time to explore in depth what it means to be a parent of a second-generation survivor of the genocide against the Tutsi. It’s such an important topic that isn’t fully explored to its potential. I hope it generates academic research interests; it’s essential that we figure out what it means to be a parent of a second-generation survivor, as well as understanding intergenerational trauma.
I used radio because I trained as a journalist so it’s what I know how to do. I am thankful that I was able to find a way to reflect on such an important subject.
Has your journey as a survivor contributed to your desire to pursue academia?
You could say that it’s a trauma inspired ambition, but I don’t have a problem with that. Most of us have to find something to inspire us and in many ways everything I have done in the last twenty-seven years was shaped by the genocide against the Tutsis. By the end of the genocide (July 1994), I had just turned fourteen. When you are that age, it’s the beginning of adolescence, the age of transformation. It is such a difficult age in the best of circumstances. Looking back now, I don’t know if I am the person I was meant to be, but I know the struggle to define yourself after the genocide is shared by so many other survivors, in Rwanda and elsewhere. The fight to find another way to say who you are and to make a statement about yourself are essential elements of surviving. And for me, learning and writing have provided a venue to do so and I am grateful. I feel very, very privileged that I am able to do these things because it means I am in a position to extricate myself from sadness and sorrow. I have made a step forward. I am alive.
Thank you, you are truly the most remarkable person I’ve spoken to
You are so kind, thank you. But in all honesty, I am not unique and there are so many more survivors, every single one of us carries wounds and scars that are unimaginable. I am humbled every day when I hear their stories, it inspires me – to see that people who have gone through other unimaginable kinds of pain are still here, and are still alive. That’s one of the things that I understood in this programme; I kept thinking about my children, then I realised there are thousands of other children, my children will not be alone. They will find their people, the same way that I found my people. That’s the key lesson I think I’ve learned from this programme, recognising that I am not alone, we are alive, all fighting different battles obviously, but we are here. And, therefore, our children will be okay because we are still here, we didn’t die.
Alice plans to pursue academic research following the completion of her PhD and hopes to take some time to think about where to take her next steps.
Genocide Does Not Stop for Coronavirus
By Joel Freedman
March-June 2020 will be remembered by those of us in the UK as when our lives completely changed. During lockdown, I, along with all my fellow students were sent home suddenly in the middle of term. Along with the rest of society we spent upwards of 8 weeks almost entirely inside our own houses, leaving only for brief periods of exercise. Relationships, work, travel and much more were put on hold as we came together to fight the coronavirus pandemic. Whilst we were facing an unprecedented threat that had the potential to impact any one of us at any time, millions of people across Myanmar, China, Sudan and several other countries faced an all too familiar threat. Genocide has been taking place in Myanmar against Rohingya’s at least since 2016; in China against the Uyghur’s at least since 2014 and in Sudan against Darfuri’s since 2003. Unfortunately, for these groups of people and many others, coronavirus has not alleviated their suffering.
Since the start of lockdown, there have been a number of causes that have caught public attention. Two of these cases are, the Black Lives Matter movement and the suffering that the people of Yemen continue to experience. Students have been at the forefront of campaigning. My social media feed was flooded with calls to sign a petition, make a small donation, or even a plea to just engage in general education. From a personal perspective I highly commend any campaign that intends to increase awareness, education or help a discriminated against group in any positive way. However, whilst I wholeheartedly support these campaigns, they alone are not enough.
The only way in which we, as a human race, will prevent future hate, discrimination and persecution based on identity is through a change of collective and individual attitudes. Until we, as individuals, truly embody the attitude of caring about hate directed at another group of people as much as we care about hate directed at our own group, genocide and general baseless hatred will continue. As more and more individuals commit to actively trying to live by this attitude, slowly the institutions that make up our society will be filled with people who are determined to fight all baseless hatred, not just hate directed at certain groups. The campaigns and conversations that took place during lockdown show that as long as we do not slip into old attitudes as the world goes back to normal this idyllic society can be a reality.
Living by this attitude is not easy. It is not something that any of us have accomplished and therefore no longer need to think about. It is an ongoing battle to fight our own prejudices. Whether it is educating ourselves in order to dispel misinformation and stereotypes. Ensuring that we get our news and ‘information’ from as diverse an array of sources as possible or learning about and commemorating other group’s tragedies in the same way we do our own. We must all make a conscious effort to constantly check our preconceived attitudes.
This is especially important in the face of growing genocide denial. Holocaust denial is rampant across Europe and with the last of the survivors passing away this is becoming an even more acute problem. Denial of other genocides such as the genocide against the Tutsi and the Bosnian genocide show that this form of revisionist history is something we need to tackle head on through education. Whilst most people (if not everyone) reading this article do not hold these views it is crucial to understand their prevalence so that we can be united as a society in combating them when we encounter denial of any groups suffering.
Myself and others are using digital mediums to educate about genocide. I have started a podcast with my friend Adam Grossman called ‘The Good Neighbour’ which will be released on December 9th. As part of this podcast we will be having conversations with diverse guests about issues related to baseless hatred. We do not approach these conversations as so-called ‘experts’ but as people who believe that having the discussion is valuable and therefore our hope is to provoke thoughts and conversations on these topics.
How can any group of people expect to lessen and prevent baseless hatred against their own group without significantly focusing on baseless hatred generally, against all groups?
Togetherness Is More Than Just A Youth Football Team
By Katie Garner
Togetherness Youth Cooperative is perched on a hillside in Munini, on the skirts of Kigali, Rwanda. The rich afternoon sun casts its glow across the valley, off the red dirt and onto the hard working, fast moving limbs of young footballers, boys and girls, who will not waste a single moment of the daylight hours between the end of school and the ever prompt arrival of the sunset.
Football is the life blood of this community, and has been since its formation. A group of orphaned kids gathered together onborrowed,unused land to spend their hours and days and weeks in the aftermath of the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi.
This is Togetherness, a cooperative that was formed from the ashes of the atrocity that happened on this soil, in this place. The founder of the cooperative is Pastor Steven Turikunkiko, a man who due to his own harrowing biography was unable and unwilling to turn away children. When he could no longer fit any more orphans in his house, he helped groups to form child-headed households, the only way to ensure that someone, somewhere was looking out for every child.
Togetherness is an epigraph as much as a name, and football is the art of Togetherness, the beautiful collision of people for the beautiful game and a common purpose beyond themselves.
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Over the last 20 years the community formed. Ten years ago, a large piece of land was bought, tilled, and transformed with enterprising businesses: farming, a bakery, a pre-school, and buildings. Community gather here each day and at the core is a football pitch, dug by the youth themselves.
Years of rainfall, cascading from the top of the mountain, impeded only by a few buildings, banana trees and some vegetation, has tugged at the edge of this hand-dug pitch. Now, for the first time, proper water drainage is being introduced, the land is being prepared. Due to construction, no football has been played here for a few weeks, and the plants are seizing their brief, untrodden moment in the sun. Not for long. A large digger and a multitude of hands are clearing the space, cutting stone, flattening the earth, making it level, creating infrastructure ready for the future. It will eventually become a Junior FIFA pitch, a resource for this community, and a business proposition that will stabilise and sustain this community for another twenty, forty, sixty years.
Football, and the progress on this pitch has been made possible by the joint efforts of the Togetherness Youth Cooperative leadership, in conjunction with US non-profit, African Road. African Road purchased this piece of land and has partnered with this community for almost a decade, investing infriendship and relationship, encouraging, supporting and connecting these young people into a more expansive and sustainable future.
It was one of these strategic connections that found former Rwandan footballer, Eric Murangwa Eugene and the Ishami Foundation, a principle driver of the innovative Football for Hope, Peace and Unity training that has and continues to empower. Women and girls who are invited to the pitch, so often the protected domain of boys the world over, are now encouraged through sport to consider their value, their worth, the rightful space that they take up in the world. Young men are also involved, practicing connection and peacebuilding in formerly fractured circumstances, something that is echoed by Murangwa on pitches in the UK, his place of refuge from the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi. Sport, football in particular is both the driver of transformation and the mechanics of it, accessing the deep cultural roots of community football to facilitate positive change.
Members of this cooperative and the wider community are already making their mark, with early cooperative members playing for the second division and junior national teams. For others it is the activity that gets them through the day, it is family, therapy, community, and focus.
By May it will be a stable pitch with tiered seating, drainage and toilets. This will secure the hillside and take the pitch half way through the evolution from a hand-dug dirt clearing, to a regulation FIFA Junior pitch.
There is still more to do. At Togetherness the story continues, with funding still required to complete the second stage of the work: lights for longevity of play, football turf, posts and nets to meet the necessary FIFA standard, and vital access to the site, with roads and parking to make this business more profitable.
You are invited to join Togetherness in building something that will sustain them mentally, emotionally, physically and financially, to be part of the ongoing story of reconciliation and hope in impossible circumstances.
Togetherness is also just the beginning, Eric Murangwa Eugene and the Ishami Foundation work with communities and cooperatives across Rwanda, where football has proved to be the vital sustaining force. In partnership with these young people, they seek funding for better pitches, for gender equality, a strengthening of individual identity, and business opportunity. These football pitches are monuments to overcoming and a necessary investment in a peaceful future.